J just received word that the main instigator in the murder of his friend T has been found guilty, and is now awaiting gaol sentencing. It's been a long haul since T's disappearance in 2000, and then the discovery of his body two years ago, and the charging of the two boys (and they were only boys at the time of the murder, 15 and 17) with the crime. J has gone to join his friends who were in the court today, probably the best company for him at the moment. I doubt that this will, in any way, bring closure to J, his friends, or T's family, but at least it's over. Sometimes there is absolutely nothing you can do as a parent to help your child, and that is probably the hardest thing about parenting that you will ever have to face.